A family name is usually carried by a man, which has been for such a long time when this world was created. To me, a man is a man that brings his name forward with pride to his wife/partner & children & makes decisions & is the main bread winner of your home. Now these days, life & family meanings & structures are changing a lot. Many men now are adopting their wife/partner's name instead of keeping his name. How do you feel when this has been done? It brings the family down, it breaks values of a family, it breaks your parents values. Not an easy decision to live with as many people mock you for this. Can you live like this, by taking your wife's name instead of keeping your name?