When you lose someone dear to you, there are several stages most people go through. I'm told that you grieve, you get angry, you try to forget, and you feel sorry for yourself. For me, it has been self-pity. I found it hard to quit thinking about what I had lost. Some seem to handle this better than others. What do you think would be the hardest phase to get through? And, my condolences to everyone who has suffered this loss.